Sometimes stress sneaks up on us. But there are ways of dealing with it.

This is an interesting point of view I found in my studies: the cause of all of your problems is the same as the cause of all of my problems and everyone else’s problems. 


‘Rubbish’ you say, but think about it. Look at it from a broader perspective than you’re used to.

The person you are today is a result of all your life’s experiences from conception till the present. When you come into this world you’re born into a specific environment. Your caregivers had their problems and the skills and tools they operated from. You pick up ways of behaviour from these skills as well as all other experiences and begin to develop your own coping skills based on the references that you are exposed to.

Our brain is a filing system that records the details of every memory you have, every piece of information as well as the physiological response at the time of the experience. Your subconscious records that reaction and experience in order to protect you from future danger.

This physiological response may include increased blood pressure, muscle tension, anxiety, fearfulness, and other reactions associated with fear or fright. When we experience a very emotional event, the brain records every detail:

What you saw (colours, images, expressions on faces); what you heard (the tone of the voice); smells, tastes, where we were; who was there as well as the emotions we experienced at the time. The entire memory of an emotional event, for example an assault, a car accident, death of a loved one, etc is organised, sorted and recorded for future reference.

The brain makes these files based on the information it is given, usually through our senses but sometimes through our thoughts. Simply thinking about them will produce the same feelings again and again. Because these records are in the subconscious, we’re not aware of the majority of them; this means we so often react to something in a certain way, without knowing why. To fix problems, we need to know where they sit.

Neuroscientists tell us we operate from the subconscious 95-98% of the time. For example, you meet someone for the first time and immediately feel a sense of fear or you take a dislike to them. This person could be representing someone from your past with whom you had a bad experience. It may be as fleeting as a certain look, accent or tone of voice that triggers the subconscious mind to produce the chemicals where your body feels the negative sensations.


Our view of the world comes from this recorded information as well as our personality, perceptions, beliefs, habits, programs (I am not smart) and patterns (I am not good enough). Our current problems are based on what we have experienced and how we internalise it.

Inside us there’s a system that is working perfectly to keep us safe and in alignment with our reality. All our life experiences, traumas, losses, hurts, sadness, fears, judgements, betrayals, our patterns and programs are recorded in the subconscious mind as memories. What we heard, felt, our thoughts, the pictures, sensations, smells, tastes and emotions are all the ways the information is held in the mind.

The mind has the great ability to manifest and produce whatever it needs to keep you in alignment with what you hold inside.

In order to have a problem, you must successfully do something internally to produce it. Once you realise the one cause of all problems you will be able to change those problems and transform all areas of your life.

Now that you know that the cause of all problems is the database your subconscious holds, how do you get rid of your problems? By changing the records that result in those problems. As a trained Faster EFT practitioner that’s what I can help you with.

Stay well, and whack those problems for 6!

Lalita Holmes

FasterEFT Practitioner/ Pain Coach